CantExplain, I think I actually thought the complete opposite of what you did...

LateBloomer, here's my question for you.. What do you want? Do you want to feel passion and be in love with your husband again? Because, personally, I believe if you want it, then you can get it back. It would be work, sure, but I think it's do-able. But if you don't want it, then, honestly, I'm not really sure what the next step would be, other than to figure out what you do want. I wonder if this is something a therapist could help you figure out? The reason I suggest this is because if you discuss something prematurely with your husband (ie, you discuss an open marriage, but then later change your mind and decide you want to stay with him and just him, the idea of you wanting other people might hurt him too much to make him feel like he could stay in the relationship to make it work himself). A therapist is a good third party sounding board to help you figure out what you really want. Also, I think journaling is another good way to figure out what you really want. Then once you figure out what you do want, and what you think the steps to make that happen would be, you could discuss with your husband the role he can play in that.

I guess, really, I'm not sure what you're looking for from us... We can't really tell you what to do or what not to do. We also can't give you permission for something (if that's what you're looking for). You have to figure out what is right for you.

Good luck!