Guess you don't know me and my T then. Because she has a huge heart, often I can't afford to pay her for being here for me (like all the phone calls she has made to me when she's out of the country on a family emergency, and the emails she answers)-- she loves her job and she loves many of her clients. Including me. I'm not vulnerable or confused in therapy. I've got a good handle on me and T's relationship as well as therapy and my other relationships with people. We say "I love you" frequently to each other and she often says/writes that she misses me. She is a professional, yes. But I pay her for her KNOWLEDGE and her EXPERIENCE-- I don't pay for her heart or her love-- she said that her heart is not for sale. She doesn't get paid to care or paid to love her clients. That's something she gives freely.