another thought...from the other side of the patient... if the caregivers really cared like you all seem to... the relatives of the patients would love for you to know more about them and the family and what they loved to do etc... it's just that I think you and family are like ships in the night... plus the family doesn't KNOW you would like to share more in their family member's life...

I think that would help in some ways to feel good/better about your work. It won't make it any harder when they pass, as you already care so much! tc