Beauflow, have you heard of "minimizing" it' s a coping mechanism we use to survive abuse when it's happening because if we admit to ourselves or others the enormity of how bad it really is, it would destroy us as children. As adults, we continue to do this for many
reasons. We are still protecting ourselves from alk kinds of feelings we don't want to feel. We are protecting our abusers.
Just something you might want to think about.