Latebloomer, being depressed and tired sure make it difficult to feel sexual. Also lots of anti depressants can take away sex drive. I
have a lot of fears and phobias with sex. So i started reading Sexual Healing by Barbara Keesling. She has some nonthreatening
activities that can bring you closer. Also lots of info about various issues. What interested me the most is tantric sex. I've been
reading about it. It' s a very different way of viewing sex. Sex is viewed as much more sacred. In some of the reading it said many people had never been touched before without some expectation, but if you and your partner touch without expectations just to be totally in the moment and enjoy the sensations , it' s a completely different experience.