I’m delighted with the response here. If I wanted people to agree with me I would have titled the post ‘I hate my T’ and it would have been quite simple to have everybody who opened the page agree wholeheartedly with me.

I think it is very important that we at least acknowledge that there may be some issue surrounding this topic. Perhaps it might be worth giving a little thought as to just what is, or isn’t going on.

Many people underestimate the ability of the therapist in general. A good therapist does indeed direct how things progress and he/she does guide things in a certain direction.
This above all else is their job. He/she uses open questions ‘who, what, where, why, when?’ to encourage you to open up a certain part of yourself.
He/she is fully aware of what he is doing when he asks these questions.

Of course a ‘relationship’ develops between you, and of course the therapist will have feelings for you. I used the analogy of the teacher before, and I believe that it is entirely appropriate. Your therapist is a teacher. It might not be geography they’re teaching but they are teachers all the same.
God bless the therapist. They are great people with an intimate knowledge of how the human mind works. But it is worth bearing in mind that they are still coming at things from a completely different direction than you are.

I can only hope that someone somewhere can see what I’m trying to do. I’m definitely not trying to invalidate any emotions you might feel. But it might be in your own best interest to try to take a step back and look at things objectively. You could be saving yourself from a world of hurt. I’m not saying that you’re not doing this now. That's solely for you to decide.

I hope your relationship with your therapist stays as strong and pure as it seems to be at the present time. And I hope also that I provoke as much thought as I have responses, and controversy. I wish you all nothing but the best, and I hope you end up being happy and content.

Good Luck, and I mean this with all my heart!

John.