I tried to respond here last night, but my computer acted up and lost it. LMo, I have been thinking of something and I don't know if it would fit for you guys or not, so just consider it food for thought and no more, okay? I noted that you mentioned a housekeeper, and wondered what you pay the housekeeper? Also, how would your husband feel about and do with maintaining the house? How would you feel about paying him what you pay the housekeeper?

I have a brother-in-law who has been out of work for a few years. He's a chemical engineer (phd) and my sister is a psychiatrist. My BIL doesn't seem to be looking for a job. He writes crossword puzzles and submits them for publication, and has had one published in the years that he's been trying. I think they might have paid him $100 for it. They still have their son in daycare. I guess my point is you're not alone, and there's more than one path to a woman with a career and a husband who is at home. My BIL could find another job if they were willing to go to where he managed to find one, but my sister doesn't want to alter her career to accomodate that. I bet there is more to the story that I don't know.

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