Time, ladies, patience. Experience. Baseball pitchers don't start their careers throwing shut-out games, and sexual encounters seldom begin with fireworks. Believe it or not, good sex is something that builds with time & experience--at least for me. A partner who tries things with you so it gets better & better for both of you.

The good stuff is worth working on & it's worth waiting till the time & partner's right to work on it in pairs. There's stuff you can learn to do alone. But don't give up on anything now. You've got lots to experience & enjoy ahead. I'm waaaayyy older than you--I know these things <grin>.