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Old Nov 20, 2011, 02:56 PM
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scorpiosis: thanks for your lengthy reply. You understand me SO well! I emailed her about something else, (a phone call I made to someone I haven't spoken to in more than 30 years, and I was scared. I left a message for this person and haven't gotten a call back; maybe I won't, but that's another story). Anyway, in that email I wrote: do you know what the best part of the session was and what does that mean?

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You aren't in therapy primarily to work on the "yucky stuff"-- you're in therapy to overcome your pattern and to learn how to have a healthy relationship with your T-- and, really, to overcome the emotions and behaviors that cause you to act our your pattern.
Thank you for understanding that.

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And, if you (and your T) feel your emotions and reaction to the hug are out of proportion, then that is just something you can talk about and work on. You should never feel embarrassed or "bad" about it-- just be aware of it and work on it. I actually think you have really great instincts. You know when something feels good and when something feels TOO good. I think when it feels TOO good, it's because you know it's because it's feeding your pattern-- and you're making so much progress in therapy that you don't want to feed your pattern anymore. You're committed to moving past it, and you're even willing to give up things that don't serve that purpose (like having T respond to your e-mails). It sounds like you're on the right track and moving in the right direction! So I think you should feel proud of yourself!
Thank you VERY much for the nice words, scorpio!!
Thanks for this!
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