I agree with you skysblue! I observed my T for months before I actually sat down and talked with her. I don't think she knew I was doing that, but I was and it really helped me. Watching and observing her from the very beginning I felt like we'd known each other forever and that I would probably be ok if I started seing her, but there's no way I would've even ventured into thinking about seeing her if I hadn't felt like she was trustworthy, honest, down to earth and most importantly sincere.