If my T did this, I would definitely see him again to hear what the h*ll happened. I would ask very direct questions, and if they made him squirm, too bad for him. We would either work through it or not be able to. But I would definitely meet with him to find out what happened and tell my side of the story (how I felt) and listen to his side too. If he seemed evasive or was not taking responsibility for his actions, I would push for better. If he couldn't work it through, it would probably be good-bye. I have been seeing my T, though, for several years, and we have a strong relationship, so it could bear the weight of my confronting him and him being made uncomfortable. If I hardly knew him and had only been in therapy a few months or had a shaky relationship, I'm not sure the relationship could bear it.
I'm not good at confronting people or resolving conflict, so even if I didn't want to continue therapy with the T, I might still try to go to a session and talk about it because I need practice in taking on and managing conflict. YMMV, though.
Best of luck. Sorry this had to happen to you.
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