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Originally Posted by PreacherHeckler
"around here where I live and work we have rules that prevent ex therapists from making contact with ex clients. if you were here and I was that therapist I would have no choice but to do the same - turn my head/ body away from you, prevent any eye contact, looks, bodily contact, and veer to a different path so that anything I do does not alert other people that may be around from knowing I know the client or ex client. its called protecting the client / ex clients confidentiality.
the only way in which I would be able to make eye contact, pass a client / ex clients path or otherwise acknowledge the client / ex client is if I have permission from the client / ex client stating I may do so."
Wow, how bizarre. Sounds like "Extreme Avoidance: Therapist Edition." Did anyone ever stop to think that such an odd and extreme behavior could actually draw more attention to the situation instead of protecting the client? Where I live in the US a therapist is expected to behave as he would when passing any stranger -- he does not have to veer to a different path to avoid passing me or go to such extremes to pretend he does not know me. It's pretty simple. He treats me as he would any other stranger unless I acknowledge him first. That protects my confidentiality and allows me to choose when I want to say hi and when I'd rather not, depending on who is with me or where I am at the time.
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when you are out and about watch the behavior of those around you.. it is normal human behavior to look to the sides or looking down, and move to the right or left when passing other people. doing that here is called "veering to the left or right / going in another direction"
it is also normal human behavior to notice / see something that is not directly in front of you and move in that direction as if, or so that you can get a better look at that which has drawn your attention.
Around here strangers do not notice when someone has changed direction while walking / driving or doing daily living.
another way to look at this is pay attention to your own habits when out and about, do you make eye contact with all that you pass, or meet up with or does your natural gaze look and see things that are in front of you, to the right of you, to the left of you or do you walk watching the ground pass under your feet or a combo of all of the above.
when I walk I look forwards, to the right and to the left noticing whats going on *all* around me, Sometimes I even turn around to see whats going on behind me.
around here its completely normal to take notice of things to the left, right , behind as well as forward, and turn aside, go other directions than remaining going straight ahead all the time.