Hi Audrey,

I was about to jump in and sympathize with you about people only caring about children, 'cause I have felt that way too. What about those children after they become adults? Then I read Dexter's post. He really has a good point about adults having more options available to them than children do. While your inner child still wants nurturing (I think we get a lot of that here on this forum), now you do have options for changing your situation and making your own life what you want it to be.

For you, it looks like first priority is getting out of your parents' house. That situation is not doing you any good. I had to get away from my parents too, and I didn't have much when I did it. I lived at home and went to college and worked part time for one year, and saved enough money to pay my rent in a cheap student apartment with six roommates the next year. (paid the rent for the school year in one lump sum) I went to a different state from where my parents were, because I needed to get away from them. They fought me, but I had to do it. Then I relied on financial aid and a scholarship. I had part-time jobs but they didn't pay much. I just barely scraped by, but I was out and I did make it. You can too!

And therapy can help a lot to help you come to terms with your past and learn how to deal with the present, as well as plan for your future.

I'm sorry you can't stand your life, but when your life is intolerable that means it is time to take charge and make some changes. You can do it!

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