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Originally Posted by kasva
hi
i'm sorry i guess i didn't explain this very well. i see my t two times a week and talk to her one time a week. i didn't take my meds monday night because i ran out of them and didn't pick them up. when i talked to t on tuesday i mentioned i hadn't picked up my meds. she got real stern and said i have to go pick them up right then. i was in a really anxious state and felt i couldn't go into town and face people to pick up the meds. so, i told her i couldn't pick them up. she said i had to and i said no i couldn't. she got really upset and said i was scaring her and im not allowed to scare her so she said..." you can go to see somebody else because i won't deal with this ..if your not going to do what you need to do then you can't see me." we went back and forth saying the same things over for a while. she finally suggested i get a friend to pick them up but you have to do it now. i hadn't thought of that solution....so i hung up with her and called a friend to pick them up. i told her threatening to fire makde me upset and she said you can't scare me.
i am quite sure she meant what she said and if she hadn't suggested calling a friend that she would have fired me. it seemed so out of the blue to fire me for that (which wasn't good but not a firing thing i think ). so, now i just don't trust that she won't fire me over something i feel i can't control.
ikes....this was long i'm sorry for that.
thank you for any responses.....kasva
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I can see that this is really upsetting. I would be upset too.
Your T should have handled this better, but I can see where she is coming from. She thinks it is really dangerous for you to be unmedicated. She cares about you. Any loving parent, sibling, friend or spouse would have felt the same feelings and might have said the same thing to you.
Now if you were my wife, the conversation would have gone like this:
Me: Did you pick up your meds?
You: No...
Me: Well you need those meds. Go pick them up.
You: I can't.
Me: Can't? Why not?
You: I just can't face going downtown and dealing with strangers right now.
Me: Well you've got to get those meds one way or another. Get in the car, I'll drive you.
Now unfortunately, your T does have the option of driving you to get your meds or going to get them herself. So she's concerned and helpless. All she can do is persuade
you to do something. So she got angry and said something I'm sure she will regret. And in the end, you
did find a solution.
I, too, have been to the same T for eight years. And sometimes she hurts me. When she does, I point it out and we talk it over. It's not easy! But I always feel better afterwards.