Sexual abuse is a very very deep and guarded secret for me , I have never "discussed" it with T but she knows. I get the ewwww factor, but your T is right. It happened to you , it doesn't define you and you werent a participant ... You were a victim. For me it has caused many issues some obviously related and other not so obviously. You are no different now then you were before you told T, it's just out there now. Sounds like an important topic you will need to explore further until that ewww feeling can go away. Very brave , wishing you well.