Hi There Jessie!
First of all I think it's healthy that you realize that it is not you, your boyfriend really does sound like he has a problem opening up and communicating.

Also, let me tell you that no, not all men are this way.I will give you two examples from my experience. I was married before to a man who had a fantastic, outgoing personality. He was always the life of the party and everyone liked him. As time went by and problems arose that I needed him to communicate with me about I noticed a very strange thing...he would go completely silent, and seem to shut me out. Here I would be, in total pain,and he would just lie there, reading his book and acting like there was nothing going on and it was like I wasn't even in the room! I would get so frustrated and tell him I felt like I was talking to a wall. His reply? None! Well, I am probably making him sound bad,and the thing is he wasn't always non-communicative, there were times where he would actually listen and reply and comfort me, but not to the extent that I wanted him to. I blamed myself in a way because I felt like maybe I was making too big of a deal about wanting to talk and share things, and I started to doubt myself. My self-esteem suffered because I didn't feel validated. Then I noticed something. He wasn't just this way with me, he was this way with everyone! He would do anything to avoid a confrontation, and he relapsed back into drinking (he was a recovering alcoholic when I met him). I think this was his way of self medicating because when he drank, he would REALLY open up, and he would communicate and even cry. The only problem was I didn't want to be with him anymore because of his drinking (among other things) and by then it was too late for me to want to listen to anything he had to say. Ok, now for the other end of the spectrum!

I met my boyfriend a while after my marriage ended, in the day hospital. I don't know if it had something to do with the way we met, but he and I have the most fantastic communication I have ever experienced with anyone! I am so amazed with him because he is the most open and honest and communicative person I have ever met.. When I talk he gives me his undivided attention. He will drop whatever he is doing to be there for me. He even picks up things in my voice and asks me if there's anything wrong, if I'm feeling ok, or if there is something I want to talk about. It is so refreshing to be with him, and we are never at a loss for words with eachother. Ok, I don't mean to sound like I'm bragging, it's just that I have never felt so validated in all my life and I am so happy to have found him, he is my soulmate. The cool thing is he has that fantastic balance of being deliciously male (lol I can't believe I said that) and yet he is the most sensitive person I have ever met. We like to do fun things together, but we both find that the best and truly most meaningful times are when we are just lying there talking and enjoying eachother's company and conversation. So my point? Not all men are non-communicative. I think it depends on the person and the factors that make them who they are.

I hope you and your boyfriend can start to really communicate, I truly feel that it is the best thing about a relationship. It bonds you and makes you close, and when the communication is good EVERYTHING is good!

Well, I hope this gives you some kind of insight. Sorry for the rambling, and I wish you the best!

Love,
Sujin