What a grand picture of you you posted!
RAWR!

Ruben, your mom & everyone in your family ought to be getting support now with therapists & probably psychiatrists. Is this happening? Even counseling with your family as a group. The county you live in (if you're in the USA) would have something available for you. Is this happening? I know you're worried about your mom, but she shouldn't have to go through this alone.
Take care.
Roadrunner