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I don’t suppose I’m the most qualified person to answer this since I’m asexual and not subject to the same desires and stresses as other people, however I’ll have a go with my thoughts. Before anyone barks at me for giving suggestions on how to reduce a natural urge, I am both trying to help the OP and I personally believe that not all incidences of sexual urge are in need of response (as I will continue to address). If the OP does not desire to partake so often, such measures can aid in management of the situation, although to the OP I say that I very much doubt someone with the urges to begin with could eradicate their libido completely. Perhaps at best you can find yourself in a state where you feel more in control.
As I understand it, you wish to reduce or stop the frequency of masturbation, especially with regards to pornographic material?
Firstly, I’m not sure if you mean that you actually seek out pornography or that you are triggered by accidentally witnessing scenes or images of an amorous nature during everyday life. If the former, if you actually have some of that material close to hand (your own magazines or DVDs etc) then perhaps get rid of those in order to make it harder for yourself to gain access to it. Either way, when the thought to seek it appears or you find yourself sparked by such material, try to distract yourself, even if it is turning the channel to watch something more tame.
With distraction, it is best to act immediately so as not to allow yourself to accumulate and lose willpower to these desires. If you find yourself trying to indulge it, interrupt yourself and actually go and do something else rather than remain stationary. Do something that requires your brain to concentrate on the task, such as chores around the house or a project. If you can’t focus on something in the house without reverting to desires then go for a walk or run or go to the gym even, combining exercise and tiring yourself out with a situation where you can’t indulge yourself in public. I know for someone with mental illness, it can be hard to do either of these and people want you to do it all the time, but perhaps this can give you added reason and it’s good if you can manage it. I sometimes think that boredom is one reason why people might feel the need to masturbate a lot since they find they have time on their hands and their brain is more receptive to those internal niggles when it is not being stimulated.
I don’t know if you are male or female bodied, but another option is actually to go to the toilet. Yeah, sounds odd, but a full bladder can press against sensitive internal genitalia and make you feel aroused when you really just need to go. Might be worth a try.
You might also like to work out if there are other things that trigger you. For example, if you masturbate while in bed, you may train your brain to associate the bed with sexual urges and thereby cause yourself to feel more inclined every time you try to sleep. If something like this is the case, perhaps when you do need to indulge, find a place in the house you don’t visit often or spend a lot of time in so you can try to reduce the number of times this trigger is activated. Keep your bed for sleeping and your sofa for watching TV.
Just my thoughts for the moment.
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