I can relate to all of these posts in one way or another, and agree with the advice about getting a dr/psychiatrist/SOMEONE who has extensive ADHD knowledge. I also suffered for decades depressed and undiagnosed and yes, the depression may or may not be an illness of it's own, and I am prescribed Zoloft by my pcp to help with that, and adderall by my psychiatrist which has literally transformed my life. As I said to my psychiatrist during our initial meeting (and her diagnosis of me having "one of the most severe cases of ADHD she's ever seen" she said), "In an attempt to function around my ADHD my life has gotten smaller and smaller and now there's not much left- I don't have friends, I don't do ANY social activities, I can't talk on the phone, and I can't even play with my kids- obviously, this is horrendously depressing." As one ADHD says, "Treat the ADHD and then see what disorders are left." For me, it took taking Zoloft for several months before I was even capable of the hope and motivation necessary to seek help for my ADHD- it is a vicious cycle that requires tenacity and focus just to find a psychiatrist who takes my insurance, and to keep repeating my story until someone finally listened. There IS help out there; sadly, the way the system works it is next to impossible to get help for mental health unless you're mentally healthy. The only advice I can truly give is to NOT GIVE UP- you deserve to be healthy, happy, and to LIVE your life- not just survive it! DON'T GIVE UP!!!!