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Once I was diagnosed I was always very upfront with potential BFs. At the end of the second date if I thought there was going to be a 3rd I'd tell them. I'd say hey this is what I have, it's me and now's your chance to run or you can stay and get to know a great albeit crazy woman. I also offered to answer any questions they had about it. Surprisingly I didn't have many who bolted. Don't know if it's just the type of guy I pick or what. Also the ones who stayed I was upfront on how I present when I'm having a bad time and told them just know it can be hard to deal with but it does pass.
Fast forward to my married life: My hubby just recently had his diagnosis changed from BP to Schizophrenic. He also has PTSD from SEVERE childhood abuse of all kinds and has night terrors stemming from the abuse. I will be the first to admit sometimes his crazy and mine collide but we have talked extensively about what to do at these times. When possible we just walk away and try to calm down. We are also very conscientious about keeping Pdoc appointments and taking our meds.
I hope this helps someone or offers some hope that there are good understanding guys out there.
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