I've never liked giving oral sex. The first time I learned people go down on each other, I couldn't help but wonder why. In high school, I had a verbally abusive bf who had me give him oral and then he gave me oral. I'm pretty sure I'm over this and that I don't like oral sex because it's just not for me.

I've been with my current bf for 3 years. He likes to give and receive. After telling him to slow down when he would give, I was actually okay enough to enjoy it but I think it's unnecessary. I give and receive just because he likes to do both. This has been an issue for over a year, the fact that I do it just for him. He tells me he can go without receiving and I feel relieved, but then he asks for it again later.

I know he can't make me like it. I don't think my views are going to change but I hate worrying whether or not he's going to ask to give/receive oral, or if I should just get it over with everytime we start to get intimate. He's more adventurous in sex than I am and I've led a sheltered life so things just shock me.

I'm also pretty sure he's over the fact that I don't care for orgasms. It used to bug me after everytime we had sex that he would ask if I had one or how was it. I've NEVER felt our sex was was bad or boring. I'm happy and I'm simple, I don't need much to get by. I always tell him how much I ejoy it but he has low self-esteem/depression. I just wish we wouldn't have to keep talking about why I don't like it, what it means to him. I want us to accept how we each feel about it, but that doesn't solve if oral should still be part of our relationship. What are we supposed to do?

I know we're not supposed to take sides, see things right/wrong, your way/my way. I don't know what else to do.