Hello Rayman,

I was recently diagnoised with ADD and I am twenty three. At first when my doctor mentioned to me that I might have it I felt a lot like your wife, and said the things she said. Then I went trough this long three hour test for it, that was positive. So then I started researching it, I felt like I was domed to have this horrible unorganized unfocused life. For a while I almost wished that I did not know. I have been on medication for a week and a half and I have noticed a major difference. I can sit and work on a project without getting distracted. I also can switch my "mind gears easier. Say I am upset about how someone treats me, instead of being stuck in that thought all day like before, I can say o.k. time to think about something else. I can actually do it now, before I could try really hard and it did not work. Maybe you should talk to someone they can help you find a good doctor your wife can go to. That makes a big difference as well. Medication is not going to "fix" the problem on it's own. It does help, but she needs to be willing to make some changes in her life to better deal with it as well. Tell her how you are feeling, this is a problem and it causes problems with relationships. She should want to make improvements in her life for herself and for the other people in her life, like family. Let me know how it goes. Amiee