empowering the heart of compassion is a good way to be with those who have harmed you. it involves acknowledging that we are all subject to suffering, and wishing with all your heart that you are free of suffering, your friends are free of suffering, strangers are free of suffering, and even your enemies are free of suffering... to the extent that you can include yourself and your enemies, you can find peace and forgiveness, and even well-wishing. i know you probably will not read this until after the meeting, but i hope you will reply to the thread and let us know how you did. best wishes, Gus