Like I said I was going to be blunt. Im not saying you are not OCD. I pointed out Monk because that is what MY friends are like. There are different obsessive behaviors and Monk is the closest thing I could think of that would describe MY friends.

When I hear the word trash in an appartment what I think of is being in the kitchen and cooking and for example opening a can of tomatoes and throwing the can away and it hist the floor - tomato splatters. That kind of garbage is considered unsanitary.

here a plastic rain /pqaint coat and pants (disposable one time use not the rubber variety) costs $1.99. - 5.00 depending on brand names one of my friends prefer dutch boy more durable Latex gloves .99 - $1.99 in the dish soap isle a pole grabber in a hardware store cost $5.00 . Yes it requires washing afterwards with my friend but that what a shower is for she says to me when we are together.

No you cannot control your boyfriend.

Good luck to you in what ever you decide to do. I gave you suggestions of what my friends do . You say they dont work for you. ok good luck to you.