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Nov 24, 2011, 08:46 PM
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Member Since: Jan 2009
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Open Eyes,
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We want to believe that maybe we should give our family members another chance and see if we can work it out somehow, maybe we need to understand more etc., etc., etc.
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Yes!...a hope, even though it was naive of me.
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But the reality is that a toxic person is a toxic person
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They had ulterior motives for getting together that I don't even think to this day they realize are so dishonest and downright creepy...or if they do they don't give a hoot.
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We just all are so programed that we should do our best to find ways to accept our family members and see how we can hang onto our families. The sad reality is often we simply cannot do that, and our efforts to try can end up in our exposing ourselves to once again become a victim.
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Programmed is the operative word here, you are so right!
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But the reality is that a toxic person is a toxic person
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Toxic like oil in the ocean or waste in the water...that kind of toxic. Really, really toxic!
OE, you got me thinking...the baby and the momma are actually all within me...I see it pretty clearly...and I am attempting to find the way to reach within and find the connections to both of them. It works with verbal ones much better but their likely is a way. The baby is about the same age as one of my granddaughters and so it is really relevant lately. Anyways, thank you for showing me in a kind of a way how I might address these parts perhaps by just acknowledging their presence. Anyways, I will try to keep you posted. 
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