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Nov 24, 2011, 09:03 PM
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Member Since: Jan 2009
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 Eskielover,
Isn't it true we have these expectations and are in denial of the sad, angry, disappointed, hurt feelings. I do need to acknowledge them and thank myself for having them and not pretend that everything is 'okay'. I mean it is okay in some ways and the dreams of how things could have been are just that dreams. Goodness, even in the OT the families were mostly pretty dysfunctional too. lol...I just finished reading 'The Red Tent', the life from the perspective of Diana, the only daughter of Leah & Jacob.
Eskie, the wisdom you espouse has really given me the ballast I needed for those pervasive thoughts of the crash and the mommy and baby. In my case the baby within will never be let go. Even if the real life mother and father did not want that baby, I do and so do the rest of my parts. We really need to get that point across to the mommy & baby within and your kind words have given me hope that I can be as normal as anyone as I get a-hold of the sadness and grieve what could have been and embrace what is. It is joyous, afterall!
Many thanks, Eskie...I find your heart so kind. 
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