Mysterygirl202,

I understand the self-hate very well. I've been feeling that for 30+ years myself. IMO, there are pretty deep reasons for such strong emotions. Your friend may not be ready to share such vulnerable parts of herself.

Personally, it's a lot easier for me to express my self-hate than it is for me to discuss the reasons why I feel so strongly. I feel deep shame, which contributes to the self-hate. Sharing my reasoning takes a lot of trust and some feeling of acceptance.

You're friend simply may not be ready to share such intimate details of her emotional world...as it often makes those feelings more intense. Try to keep these points in mind when you find yourself frustrated with your friend for not sharing her personal experience/s with you.

Are you hopeful to share your personal experience with the self-hate, and perhaps her resistance is what's made you feel so angry?? Or, maybe you've never felt ashamed of your self-hate and hadn't thought of that being a possibility for your friend? Just ideas...

Hope that helps you re-gain a better sense of control over your emotions. Best wishes to you!