Thank you for the advice. I've talked it through more, and feel the real issue is that I don't respect my husband as a man... I've always been stronger, and although i needed passive before, now I've grown even more, and I'm tired of being mom to three kids AND him... I need a partner, not another child. I think the sex issue is just a symptom of the larger problem - I want him to grow up and be an equal, then we can work on the marriage. But not sure how to make that happen either...