Wow. I totally hear you. What's funny is i had a somewhat similar relationship with my first husand. He was more like a child or a pesky little brother in some areas. In other areas he parented me. It was a terribly codependent relationship. My situation maybe could gave been healed and rectified with hard work and a good marriage counselor maybe, buu now i'll never know. The guil
t of how i hurt my first husband was devastating. I just wanted to spare you from that. Only you can decide what you are willing to do. If you want to leave, leave. You know in your heart if there is something salvagable. If you want to see if you can make it work, try
therapy. I wush you and your family all the best.