This is exactly what concerns me. I tried to communicate with my boyfriend for most of the day. I need to spend the next week applying for graduate schools and most of the time communicating with him takes precedence even over that. When I am with my boyfriend I instinctively focus on what he needs and if he is hungry, or something like that, we go get food. I never leave him alone. I am in a headspace where I am not even applying to graduate schools that are more than 50 miles away from home. He is letting me do this. I am completely focused on his moods and needs. I am frustrated that he hung up the phone on me crying. I do not see it as excessive accommodation though- just to respond to the post. There is no way I could be in a relationship with someone who could walk away from me when I am crying (I'm not talking about when we have a fight and need to cool down, i'm talking about crying due to life stresses). It is a matter of compatability. add: we are both youngish but I can not imagine what is going to happen the first time one of us faces a real challenge, if he can't handle thanksgiving. I do my fair share in the relationship and this is pretty much my only requirement in return. Not arguing just got some further thoughts on this based on reading the post.