If it is not excessive accomodations, what do you call it?

I instinctively focus on what he needs and if he is hungry, or something like that, we go get food. I never leave him alone. I am in a headspace where I am not even applying to graduate schools that are more than 50 miles away from home. He is letting me do this. I am completely focused on his moods and needs. I need to spend the next week applying for graduate schools and most of the time communicating with him takes precedence even over that.

This post is clearly stating that you put his needs above your own, before your whole future even. Combine that with:

There is no way I could be in a relationship with someone who could walk away from me when I am crying. It is a matter of compatability. I do my fair share in the relationship and this is pretty much my only requirement in return.

Now I can fully understand why you would want to take a break. From what you have written here, I would say you do more than your fair share in a relationship, making him the priority, and in exchange you have this one expectation. To be supported when you are crying. A very reasonable expectation it is. But be sure to evaluate if he is really worth giving up so much of yourself as well.