Yes thanks, I thought he was doing it too before this (not giving stuff up I mean, but just this urge to build a team and the real pleasure of discovering someone whose happiness matters more than your own)! And maybe he is and he is right and this was a one time thing not a big sign. He has apologized up and down and said it was a moment of "coldness" and said that is not really him, and he doesn't know why he did that. Btw I don't see the school thing as a loss, because my life will be better having him in it and a lot of the schools around here are the top schools anyway, but I guess this is the first time I saw him putting his family before me and that sort of stung. Thank you so much again for your understanding feedback kaliope.