i am old enough to know othat very little gets done, inwardly, if all i ever hear is platitudes and get hugs. i know that a lot of you don't agree with that and i don't care. if someone wants a blunt answer and they get it and then it becomes a bad thing, what happened there? they didn't really want the answer that they asked for. i've stood by and watched so little growth here at times that i've thought of leaving for that very reason. i can only be wishy washy for so long and it starts really wearing on my nerves.

i know that my life experiences have been broad and sometimes not exactly what i would have wanted..but they are my life experiences and by now i pretty know what works and what doesn't work.

as for as "cattiness" goes, i resent that. i'm not catty. i'm truthful. if you want catty, i can do it but i prefer not to go that route. if you want truth...ask me and you'll get it. the people who have been here for a long time know that i am forthright and stand by my words and actions. and in my opinion, others would be well served if they were the same.

i thought long and hard before i wrote this post. i've been posting less and less here and will be here even less. i have obligations to myself and my work and school and it all comes before PC.

hopefully someone will read this and by not taking it personally will look inwardly and perhaps make some choices that might advance their wellness. if you sit in one place all the time, you'll still be there a year from now. pat