(((radio flyer))))

It is good that you know that you cannot place yourself in the middle, although it must be difficult because, after all you spent years raising AJ and solving his problems. It truely is challenging at this stage to know how much input you can give when it comes to the relationship. And they are just living together and there sure is more than just meets the eyes in any relationship. This girl being very emotional can mean different things, how was she raised, and was she ever truely taught problem solving or given support and a sense of safety? AJ cannot answer to whatever past needs were not met for this young woman. While having a shoulder to cry on is important, her ability to overcome her emotions and problem solve has to be something she learns to do herself.

Oh it surely is challenging for many young couples and men do struggle as they are mostly problem solvers and truely get upset when they are just presented with so much emotion. And it can be so hard for them to just quietly hold their partner and help the woman relax and quietly talk her problems out, even perhaps finding a resolve on her own while she calms down. Most women that are emotional, if the male responds with anger and orders, can just feel as though their feelings are just being denied and have no value. And often women just want a strong presense to take over and be understanding rather than just present orders. Men can feel like punching bags that end up very frustrated.

I think your advice has been good about counceling and anger management, this young couple truely do not know how to communicate, set personal boundaries, and validate each others feelings properly. It doesn't just come naturally, it truely is a work in progress in every relationship.

Good luck radio flyer.

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