I lived in appartments for 7 years here in California & never once had a manager or anyone inspect any of my appartments. My first appartment had a stove that didn't shut off the oven when it reached the temperature.....a definite fire issue. It was Thanksgiving weekend when I found out what was happening. The manager told me that the owner was the one who fixes those problems & wouldn't be able to get around to it for awhile. When I told the manager I would call the fire department, the owner was out the next day to fix it. My last appartment was a no child/no pet appartment & I ended up with both....& never was evicted.

Just to lighten the mood a little....a new manager came into my last appartment when I had a problem with a leak in the ceiling from water in the appartment above us. The past manager had given me her hamster when she moved & I had a pet rat already. The hamster came down the hallway in the plastic ball that he could run in....& just as the manager saw that, my pet rat came running out from behind the TV. All I got from that was "do you have any more of those little things running around?" & we just laughed. The only thing I hated in that appartment were the huge black roaches that would come out at night. When I was pregnant with my daughter & had to get out of bed at night to go to the bathroom, a roach ran across my foot.......wow did that cause a scream. Roaches were common in that area & no matter how well they sprayed for them, I think they were resistant to the insecticide.

Our spare bedroom was our store room with all our moving boxes that never got unpacked. Boxes were piled all over that room until my daughter came along....then it turned into the nursery. Not once did any manager complain about the mess.

Now, the 2500 sq foot home I am in after being here 20 years, has become a huge junk pile that would make the fire department cringe. The junk pile started after my anxiety & depression (which was situational from my job). To top that off, I am now cleaning out my mothers home after she died last year & have boxes with no where to put them so they end up in the middle of the front room & where ever I can find a vacant spot to put them. I have pathways layed out to get from place to place with some paths that have to go over a few boxes.

I am sure your appartment is no where close to the disaster I am living in......a few boxes with videos in it shouldn't be a problem.....& no where close to being a fire hazard. A lady (a friend of an aquaintance) I met after going out on disability had the all time disaster the fire department would have had problems with. She was raising dogs & had them basically wall to wall & the mess they made was never cleaned up....with everything being piled up on top of everything else. Now that was a serious problem & your place doesn't sound anywhere close to these disasters.

I know that our disabilities cause problems with getting things done......like the trauma I went through at my mothers home when I caught the home care RN applying for a credit card using my Mothers ID, then she had the police called to the house to accuse me of abusing my Mother, then found that she had OD'ed my Mother on morphine along with other threats that surrounded that. The fear of going back to the house kept me away for quite awhile.....yes, the nightmares, flashbacks, the feelings of depersonalization were & still are haunting me everytime I go there (almost 1 1/2 years later). I am the only child & have to do everything myself. I have come to the point where I can't afford to take anymore time to finish & get the home sold no matter what I go through when I am there....(so can relate to having to stuff my feelings).

It sounds like your BF does an awful lot....especially since he is working full time outside of the appartment.....sounds like he may be tired when he gets home & has quite a lot of responsibilities to do around there to take care of too. When people are tired, they do procrastinate at times.....it is bound to happen to him also.

IMO, I would want a list of the SPECIFIC complaints the manager has about your appartment in order for you not to have to worry about anything other than those exact complaints. Getting the list will help you focus your efforts on what they want cleaned up. It may be much less than what you are imagining.

There are many disabilities that cause problems in getting things done....not just OCD & yes, sometimes we have to force ourselves into situations we don't like being in or doing things we don't want to do. Yes, they do cause heightened anxiety until it is over with & we can sigh a sigh of relief & realize that we did actually accomplish what we thought we couldn't......this in & of itself is something we can look at as a positive step to controlling our disability. Something I have learned is that I can't use my disability as an excuse to not do things that have to be done......some things won't go away & we have to be creative & find ways around our disabilities in order to accomplish what we think is the impossible.

Take care....you can do this,
Debbie