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From reading your post I can tell that your mother was picking the same kind of man constantly for partners as her father, your grandfather who spoke inappropriately to you. Now lets think about what that means, your mother grew up with that kind of language and even some of the touching as considered normal and acceptable. Even your brother's quest to have more raunchy verbal jousting to continue expressed that he too was raised to feel that this is acceptable behavior, he clearly is going to be a chip off old grampa's block.

I think one of the problems as well is that often comedy is simply giving permisssion for sexual intrusive comments to be ok to discuss within families. If we just consider " Two and a Half Men", I cannot believe they allow that on regular television. It has gotten to a point where that kind of joking is so acceptable and many think nothing of it.

With all our constant exposure to a more sexual display and wordage and inuendoes, many men think it is perfectly acceptable to be open in trash talking and often think that most young girls at the age of 15 are just used to hearing and knowing about these kind of interactions and even think they are somewhat numb to it. And in many cases these days it never ceases to amaze me what young girls do know about things that used to be considered very private and should not be uttered in public.

It is clear that you are upset by being around people who disrespectfully talk trashy talk around you. I am sorry that you had to be exposed to that. Your mother, sadly, was never taught how to be a lady, or present herself appropriately to her children. And this attitude was based on how she was raised along with what society deems acceptable today.

I am sorry that you had to be in that enviornment, you do deserve respect and privacy. But your going to have to develope that on your own and make a decision that when that kind of behavior takes place you will just leave the room. I think that you have people around you that are not very intelligent and all they can seem to muster in their interactions is mimicking not only their upbringing but what they consider normal due to what they watch on TV. The behaviors you are addressing are inappropriate.

Get yourself an education, your doing good in school, continue to do so, get to college and work your way towards being around people that are educated and have better manners and respect. Break your mother's cycle of picking the wrong men over and over. I think that your just an intelligent young woman that clearly outclasses those around her. Your the one that has to break away from this behavior, others around you clearly have no respect.

I wouldn't call it sexual abuse as far as it doesn't appear here that anyone has truely trapped you and molested you. But you are dealing with inapproprate behavior and you now need to remove yourself from it as much as possible because it is a kind of abuse. You DO deserve to have respect and be a strong person.

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