it doesn't really matter what we here think...we are not trained professionals. if it bothers you & feels wrong or inappropriate then it is wrong. period.

find a t, counselor, minister someone who you can talk to about this & see if you can make some sense of it.

should you have been protected...by all means yes. & the failure of your mom to do so is sad & wrong.

there is no "official scorecard" for what actually is sexual abuse...ie. if this happens then yes, or not then no. there is much gray area. but that said..inappropriate is just that....so like i mentioned..if it felt wrong, it was wrong.

good luck.