What kind of 'secrets' do our T need to protect us from seeing? A picture in a bikini from a recent trip to the beach? Mention of what stores they like to shop? A picture of the T with the significant other? If they are gay does it matter? Religious or political affiliations?

I know enough about my T that I am not curious to learn more. She talked about holding her cat when she couldn't sleep during her divorce, trials of raising kids when her adult daughter moved back in with her, stuff like that usually related to my own experiences. I've met her grand daughter at the office and she was cute.

My former pdoc talked about liking to garden at her house. Her house address was located in the phone book with both her work and home phone numbers. She had already given me the home number and cell. I drove by her house because I wanted to see what her house and gardening looked like. One time. It's not like I was stalking her. I was curious and I don't think there was anything wrong or unhealthy about that.

I don't even have my phone number listed in the directory and would never list my address but was she 'wrong' for listing that so patients could find her house? I think it's her choice. Who am I to say she is irresponsible because her patients would know how to find her? Am I not supposed to know she has a personal life? When I saw my pdoc's mom's obituary in the newspaper I brought her a sympathy card. Is that invading her private life or is it just being human?

Maybe I feel differently because I am so comfortable with my T and pdoc. I've known both for 15+ years. T mentioned my tan looked nice. I told her it was from a bottle and at the next visit I brought her a bottle of the sunless tanner. We are not friends but we are friendly.

Honestly I don't think there is one right answer. People have different levels of comfort and disclosure with their T.

What has anyone learned from reading their T's facebook that they found shocking?