Hi there Tomi,

Haven't been keeping up with what's going on with you....but sounds like he is still around. I wouldn't call it stupid at all. I think that sometimes it is hard to determine how much tollerance we are willing to put into a relationship. It is nice to have someone around....if nothing more that to just be there. Being alone even with our babies isn't the same as having someone there to communicate with. I know my doggies talk to me without any yelling necessary, but there is nothing like human interface.

I know that I am having 2nd thoughts about going through with our divorce after 30 years. There are times when I feel that by tollerating him, we both can be better off. I will have complete ownership of my ranch....& whatever else I can purchase with my estate money. He will have to pay his share of utilities & with my disability, I will pay my share of the expenses. If there is any money left over, then we can put it together & buy the other things we need then if there is anything left comes buying things that we individually want. Purchasing anything on credit is not allowed at all. This time the ground rules are set & he knows that there will be no second chances this time.....like he has had over the past 30 years. I have been completely up front as to what I expect out of the rest of my life & told him if he didn't see himself there, then get out now because the next time I won't back down.

I'm not sure why your husband is taking his time at leaving unless he is having second thoughts about what he decided to do. He is putting you into a difficult situation when he comes back into your life then treats you without thinking about your feelings. I would have thought with you taking the camera to the beach, it wasn't just an invitation to have him take Amber into the water without you being part of that. Sounds like he isn't really sure about what he is wanting to do since he didn't just leave for Nevada.

Take care of yourself,.....Hugz,
Debbie