Transference is the normal and natural expectation that future relationships will be similar to past ones. There's nothing sinister in that.

Therapists expect transference and certainly do nothing to discourage it. It is a way to get your outside relationships into the lab where they can be studied and worked on.

If you are feeling romantic thoughts towards your therapist, that is fairly normal too. Your T should remind you that it can only be a fantasy. But it is a good opportunity to talk about romance, sex, desrire, fantasy, feeling safe, etc.

I wonder if you are trying to "control" the relationship, and to decide what you may and may not feel. T may have other ideas. I see some stormy sessions in your future! But that can be good too.