(((hugs)))

Sounds like you got a rough deal, sorry to hear that

You need one thing to be a woman, imo; belief that you are. No matter what you look like or what you do or don't do to your body, you haven't stopped being a woman just because other people think that way. I second everything lifewater said.

If you want to change your appearance... to pad a bra or wax a lip or anything to take away the embarassment... then do it for you and not because other people are being nasty. If you don't, and you want to be proud of your own self and you like what you see when you look in the mirror, then stuff them. Your nephew will grow up a bit before you know it. Maybe you could even tell him yourself that some women do have short hair.

I hope you feel better about it all soon.