(((((HCheeks))))))) - "he's a lovely father." I am glad you can stick up for him. It is sad to hear of arguments like that in front of kids, no matter what their age. Have they ever had a separation? No one should be abused and it sounds as if she has alot of anger; hope she can get some T so as not to disrupt the family life and of course, for herself. I hope the situation improves; have you ever lived away from home? Maybe some time away would help you until this blows over?