I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years... we see each other every day, and we spend every weekend together at my house. Recently, his business partner has come into town from a foreign country, and everything seems to be falling apart. The partner is staying at my boyfriend's house for about 6 weeks, and he does not speak any English. During the first 4 weeks of this visit, I have felt as if my boyfriend has abandoned me...because the partner does not speak English, my boyfriend does not feel comfortable leaving him on his own at all...so, he has not come to stay at my house overnight at any point. I have stayed there only two times since he feels torn between speaking English with me and speaking his native language with his partner. We meet up for coffee or a walk, but the time together is limited to no more than about 2 hours. I feel this is a very strange situation and am hurt that he is not able to compromise better. Even though the partner does not speak English, he is a grown man and has cable access to shows in his home country as well as internet access. When I ask my boyfriend to compromise better, it seems to stress him out and I feel as if I'm being too demanding. When I try to just let it go, I feel frustrated and resentful. This is an annual trip, and, if we stay together will, eventually happen again or, it could happen in similar situations with other friends or family. I'm trying to find ways to compromise so that that the next visit will be better. However, the compromise really seems to be only going in one direction. I'm not sure if I need to just completely back off or if there is a bigger signal here...i.e., that my boyfriend really just doesn't care enough to make the situation better for me....when I recently asked him to just spend one night with me and hand the guy the remote, he pretty much refused point blank. He seems to hold the feelings of his business partner (who is also an old friend) in much higher regard than my feelings. My boyfriend did come with me to my parents house for Thanksgiving, but I tried to be sensitive and suggested that we leave after about two hours and then I went home alone...it's now three days later and I asked if I could come visit and spend the night so that we could have a bit more time together. He did not make me feel very welcome at all and said "Sure, you can come over but I really don't want you to be bored and the house is a real mess." Maybe there is no hidden meaning at all, but I interpreted this statement to mean, "I'd really prefer that you not come over tonight." I'm getting frustrated and I think he is as well. I just don't know how to fix it.