Thank you for explaining all that, Ruben. It makes sense as far as you go. It certainly would be great if you could forget it.

And once the divorce is over & your mom's dealt with the housing issue, you won't have to think about it any more. What I worry about is that you'll not be able to forget it. I think bad things like that can't be forgotten simply because you don't want to think about it.

Many years ago I was raped by a man I worked with. He was caught later when he attacked another woman; I identified him & he was convicted. But I tried to ignore it. Many years later I was still having nightmares & had trouble trusting men in general. I got help for it then, but I suffered for a lot of years. That's the sort of thing I'm hoping you don't have to go through.

You can only push yourself so hard, though, Ruben. You've been amazing. I'm just asking you to remember that there are likely to be emotional scars and that sometime--not now but sometime--you will probably want to deal with them & get really all-the-way better. Okay?

Take care. *gentle hugs*
Roadrunner, proud to know Ruben!