Aveda: a lot of times if you dont care about orgasms, it is because of the loss of control. They are difficult for me. A lot of things are
difficult for me so my bfriend and i are taking a break from sex right now. I'm not saying that's the right choice for you, but for me, it makes me feel very loved, valued, safe, and respected. He likes me for me. Just me. Not what i can give him in bed.

Whether or not you like oral has nothing to do with your bfriends performance. There are books out there about sexual healing. They
suggest relearning sexual touch without focusing on performance or expectations. Also do you have a T ? I suggest talking to your T
about this.