PS As you know Susan I also have abandonment issues and I have done some stupid things at times because of them.

I really feel I no longer "act out" because of those however (except perhaps in the safety of therapy) so there is hope for everyone!

For me, it took a very hurtful experience (and being judged harshly) to look closer at my "patterns" in my interpersonal relationships. I know you have been hurt too and I hope your learning curve is smoother from now on!

Take care,

Fuzzy

edited to add.... I am not currently in therapy as you will probably know if you read my posts. What I meant is that I no longer act out in my friendships like I sometimes used to, even if badly triggered. I might do in therapy though if I trusted the therapist enough.... not sure