Yeah, i know but then again you would feel pretty bad too if she got worse and ended up in real danger...so i guess it's really hard b/c it's like a choice b/t two evils. maybe she is gaining but it'll be a lot easier for her to do it if she gets some help. yeah her school friends speaking to a counsellor is a good idea, b/c then she might feel angry at the counsellor rather than you guys.