Ty DarkHeart! Yes, he has gone thru/ memory tests . . . and since they occurred after his cardiac Dx, the h/c professionals say "meds can have an affect on his attitude, the way he responds, etc."

But the changes started years b/f he was put on meds.

Here is ex. of a simple interchange this past weekend. I was making out a grocery list. He had fed the cat that morning. I asked him "Should we get more cat food?"

He replied, "I fed the cat."

I said: "Yes, I know you did. Thank you. But do we need more cat food."

He replied "If you fed the cat, then you would know."

I said: "Okay. True. So are we low on cat food?"

He said: "There is some left."

I said: "Well, how much is left? Should I buy some more? Enough for a few days?"

He didn't answer.

So I got up and checked on the cat food, lol. There was half a bag and half a dozen cans.

As I was checking on the amount of cat food, he said "As you can see, there is plenty of cat food."

All he had to say was "No, don't buy cat food." or "Yes." or "I am not sure how much is left - you better check."

Every simple exchange has turned into these silly drawnout conversations, and usually something passive aggressive about them.

He doesn't like the cat. Instead of relaying to me how much cat food there was, he relayed that he resents feeding the cat and he withheld how much cat food he knew there was just to make that point. I mean - this is inane stuff and nearly every exchange w/ him (by me and by our kids) is this same type of convoluted, indirect silliness.

Consequently, we all avoid interacting with him. Asking a simple question while making out a grocery list could just as well have gotten a tirade about the cat in general . . . I never know what I am gonna get but it is rarely just "Yes, No, or I don't know."

I am sure this doesn't convey things very well . . . just trying to give a real life example of how he makes it unpleasant to have even simple exchanges. And that is only one aspect of dealing with him. He just seems mean-spirited most of the time - when the person I married was basically optimistic and very kind and overall, a very pleasant person to spend time around.