Another issue with men and women communicating is that people are "trained" to think that men and women behave a certain way.

Example: "All women are only after a man who likes jerks that make a lot of money, want a $2,000,000 engagement ring, and roses brought to them everyday, and to be a princess/bridezilla/manipulative type personality."

"All men are cavemen who want to sit in front of the t.v. yelling 'bring me a beer!' while watching football and their wife is barefoot in the kitchen and chained to the stove."

There are so many of these little ideas that are ingrained in us through the media. "If my wife says, 'I'm fine,' that means she wants me to read her mind."

And men do have PMS. Every month my husband has incredible PMS. He is grumpy, moody, much more short fused temper, much more explosive, too. He is much more likely to shut me out, shut down, and become accusational. He has a complete emotional cycle but no physical evidence of it like a woman. I've been observing this for six years, maybe I'm more in tune to it because I watch my own cycles and patterns.

Also that whole thing about SADS and light for hunter gatherer ancestors? That makes a lot of sense. Also I read an article once about anxiety and panic disorders. The idea is that once upon a time panic was very important. If the tiger is a the gate, or the cave is about to collapse, people who are hyper aware of danger are more likely to survive or get everyone else out. It's like extra fight or flight juice. But now it isn't necessary and our hyper-awareness goes off for non-danger instead. Not sure if it is true, but interesting theory.