Well then, according to the very short book, How To Serve Man (it's not a cookbook) by the hankster, if he's EATING okay, how's the other thing? You don't have to answer that! But would he go on a couples' retreat, or go for a couples' massage at a day spa, if you threaten him with couples therapy as the alternative? Or what HE find fun that you could do with him that you wouldn't ordinarily do?